97: Narcissism, Codependency & Self Love Deficit Disorder with Ross Rosenberg
Today on the show, Ross Rosenberg joins us to talk about narcissism and codependence. The concepts are tied so deeply together and in this episode you will begin to understand why. Ross spends much of his work helping others understand the term codependency at much deeper level by sharing his concept of what he has coined “self-love deficit disorder.”
Ross explains the “dance” of codependency and narcissism, exploring how codependency often forms from narcissistic abuse in childhood and why codependents and narcissists are like magnets for each other. We tend to be attracted to what feels familiar to us, which is why codependents often experience such an intense chemistry with a narcissistic partner. Eventually however, the codependents awakes from their slumber and discovers that his or her “soulmate” has become their “cellmate.”
It’s not until we learn to fill our own self-love tanks (as I like to say), that we can break the cycle of abuse and start forming relationships with partners who love and respect our whole selves.
Ross Rosenberg is the CEO and primary contributor of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He's an expert psychotherapist, educator, best-selling author, and expert witness. In addition, he's a global thought leader and renowned expert in codependency, trauma, pathological narcissism, and addictions. His pioneering codependency, narcissistic abuse, and trauma contributions are responsible for much-needed theoretical and treatment-specific updates. Exemplifying his global impact are his 22 million video views/240K subscriber YouTube channel and his 150 copies sold/12 languages Human Magnet Syndrome book.
Listen to discover:
Why narcissism and codependency go hand in hand
Attachment wounds and the origins of codependency
What codependency actually is
Setting boundaries with a narcissist (and why it often doesn’t work)
“Codependency is a unequal distribution of LOVE, CARE and RESPECT”-Ross Rosenberg
“All codependents has a severe deficit of self love.”-Ross Rosenberg
“Codependents always fall in love with narcissists because of chemistry.” -Ross Rosenberg
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